Saturday, January 12, 2013

Is There Anybody Out There?

So as promised, here's my synopsis of my close encounter of a third kind.  While I didn't leave the meeting with any sort of wow factor, I also didn't leave it feeling like he was full of shit.  I didn't leave it with a feeling of fulfillment either, but rather a hollow (with a tiny hint of disappointment) feeling.  I guess I believed what he told me would be of a more personal nature.  I'm not sure though that that's the best way to explain what I was expecting. 

I need to state off the hop that at no point did I get the feeling from this particular Medium that he was a flake, crazy or nuts in any way.  I was most comfortable with him.  I didn't think he was pulling my leg and I got the sincere feeling that he is passionate about his gift.  He made me feel comfortable right from the start and explained to me how he, himself, deciphers and speaks with the spirit world and let me know I was always free to ask questions and to tell him if something didn't make sense to me.   And I need you to know that I have never done anything like this before (aside from mine and Eric's palm reading sesh with the quack), so I had zero knowledge of what to expect from it.   The Long Island Medium has probably killed it for me though.  She always pulls out so much personal stuff that she wouldn't, shouldn't and couldn't know, I guess I was hoping for expecting the same from this meeting.  I didn't get what I was looking for, which has lead to my hint of disappointment.

So here goes, from what I can remember (I taped it but the MP3 player ran out of memory part way through our session. Lets hope I didn't too!).

He started by taking my hands and instantly was taken aback and told me his heart was racing.  No clue if that's normal (didn't sound like it) but he did mention for me to relax and calm down (I wasn't feeling anxious or nervous so who knows what he was picking up from me).  He then stated that I had an abundance of spirits around me and asked me if I had experienced a lot of death in my life.  I stated, "Not personally."  It took him a moment to try to sort them out and decide who he would speak with first.  He then asked me what I did for a living and once explained he was able to understand and rationalize the large number of spirits around me.  He first did a run through of my personality (which was pretty bang on) and told me I was sometimes too trustworthy but at the same time he reiterated to always trust my gut, good or bad, because I was usually dead on (no pun intended). 

Next we moved on to the spirit world.  He threw a couple of names at me that made zero sense to me but then stated it seems they are spirits of people I looked after through work (easy cop out no?).  He told me spirits will use me as a go between during the first few days following their death as I'm in touch with them as well as their families during that time period.  He also told me that when I'm working on a deceased person (embalming, dressing, cosmetizing, etc) that the spirit of that person is with me watching me work.  It's funny because I've always felt like that was the case throughout my career - I didn't bother mentioning this to him.).  They aren't with me to make sure I'm doing a good job, but more so to come to terms with the fact that they have died.  He said sometimes the spirits come home with me (I've never felt this).  He said the spirits were telling him that I was extremely good at my job (I am) and they didn't see a career change in my future as this is what I'm meant to do.  They did mention that I would soon be in a position to take over the funeral home I currently work for (Yeah, don't see that happening uhm, ever).  And when this opportunity arises, I will find the financial backing and full support of my friends and family.  I have no desire whatssoever to own a funeral home.  I like leaving work at work and home at home.  They then mentioned a co-worker who suffers from extreme halitosis (that's true!) and told me that particular person is dying of intestinal problems and is basically rotting from within.  This particular person's health is failing.  (Again, true.)  He also said the funeral home is haunted and in particular, there is a priest/minister that roams between the two churches and still conducts services.  There happens to be a church on either side of the funeral home and the funeral home itself used to be a church manse, so that is completely feasible. 

Next we moved on to more personal things.  He asked me what was going on with my mother.  When I stated nothing, he pressed the issue and said there is something going on with my mother. I mentioned at this point that her husband had died(?).  He told me my mother wasn't handling his death well and if she didn't stay active and involved in other aspects of her life that her grief would turn into depression and it would consume her.  Then he told me my dad had joined us, yet I didn't feel like he was present.  He said when my mom cries, my dad is with her.  She can't feel him because she is too consumed in her pain of this loss instead of the good memories they shared together to feel him.  He said it's my role to help her through this, not as a funeral director but as a daughter (ya, thanks).  He said my dad asked about my brother and wanted to know where he was.  I stated he was either at home or at work.  He said my dad mentioned that my brother would do well in his job.  The Medium then asked what it was my brother did and I mentioned he had recently opened his own comic store.  He again stated the business would develop and Geoff should look at ways to expand it outside the four walls of the store itself and to also pay closer to attention when customers are in the store to help curb theft.  He then asked about a woman connected to my brother.  I stated perhaps his wife, he said no it was a woman who came into the store that was trying to or would try to seduce him and my brother should remain strong and firm.  My dad also told me to tell my brother to keep the lines of communication open with his wife at all times, to continue to talk opening with each other - be it good or bad.  He then mentioned a little girl who my dad spends a lot of time with.  He said she sees him and he wants my brother to know my dad is there with her. 

Then he said we could finally talk about me which is what I was waiting the whole time for.  He said my dad was worried about me and my health and told me that I don't take care of myself properly.  If I keep venturing down this road I'm going to get very sick.  I need to stop focusing on taking care of others and start tending to myself.  The Medium mentioned something was wrong with my dad's heart.  I said I wasn't aware, but thought he might have had high cholesterol.  He said he did have heart issues, but that is not what caused his death.  He said my dad never expected to be taken so quickly and it was still a shock to him.  He also told me my dad was trying to get me a message so I would know it was him.  He mentioned a butterfly and then a tattoo.  I stated that I used to have a butterfly tattoo but it has since been covered over.  He then told me I have a lot of tattoos, but only ever that one butterfly (all of my tattoos were completely covered).  He then said my dad kept bringing up a girl I knew who had passed away by the name of Sarah when I was 16.  I have no clue what he was talking about. He told me that my dad comes to my work and asked if I had ever seen him there.  I said, no.  He mentioned that he is still wearing a bomber style brown suede jacket (just like he used to).  He told me if I wanted my dad around all I had to do was call his name.  He then asked me if I had any questions for my dad which totally caught me off guard, so sadly, no. 

He then mentioned that there was an older woman who I had met at the funeral home when she came in for a visitation but has since passed away herself that wanted to speak to me.  She wanted to thank me for looking after her and her family so well at her passing and wanted to inform me that the person I am currently with is a good fit and we will be happy for a long time.  And then that was the end of my session. 

So here's my take on it:

How come my dad didn't bring up either of my boys?  The kids he was so extremely close to.  How come my dad didn't mention my sister at all?  And she's the one who lives with my mother.  How come there was no mention of Sebastian the grandchild he worried most about?  How come when my dad brought up my tattoo he didn't mention the fact that I took him to get his one and only tattoo or that I'd gotten a tattoo in his memory of a Coke bottle?  ...Something more obscure than a typical butterfly tattoo on a girl?  One of the many tattoos he would have rarely seen because of its placement on my body.  How come my dad didn't want to talk to me about personal stuff or touchy feely stuff like my dad would have done had he been alive?  How come he talked about some girl neither he or I knew?  How come he didn't call me Doll or Darling or tell me he loves me?  I guess I just expected something more personal from a man who has known me my whole life.  

And I guess I was bummed too that there was no appearance from a very dear friend, Andrew.  Not even a mention of him.  I was kind of hoping my dad would have run across him at some point.  Instead I'm bombarded with a bunch of spirits who came into my life very briefly.  Maybe I was looking for some sort of closure from both parties and walked away feeling jipt.  I guess I really like the idea that the potential to converse with either of them again exists in some way.  After last night, I wasn't really feeling like that was possible.  So disappointed this girl remains.  *Sad face*


  1. I was thinking as I read your ending thoughts, The reason none of that was said was because those points are YOUR expectations, not spirit.
    Whether he was tapping into your loved ones or ones that you have helped, spirit has no expectations. Spirit just is.
    There is nothing more authentic.
    No one to please.
    No one to comfort.
    Spirit has no rules of behavior.
    Spirit just IS.

    We often live in and with expectations.
    God/Spirit says to us, BE STILL & Know...

    Be still, be present, and just expectations just gratitude, that is what most of the messages the medium passed on were about, gratitude for you in their lives whatever your role,
    that is spirit. :)

  2. I would love to visit a medium, but like you said the Long Island medium and John Edwards kind of ruined it for me. It is so hard to believe (as much as I want to) because these particular mediums seem to know a little too much information. My friend Keri and her family SWEAR by John Edwards and they visit him frequently and attend private sessions as well as tv shows whenever he is in the NY area.

    one time my mom won a phone reading with a phsyic / medium off a radio station.

    The person told my mom that her father came through and was laughing saying he cant see and his feet hurt but that he is at peace. The medium was asking if he had went blind or had some sort of accident that hurt his feet. My mom just said no, not wanting to give away any information.

    The funeral home had called and said they lost my grandfathers glasses, so my mom went to his house and found an old, out of date pair and just used them for the wake. And there were a bunch of dress shoes in his closet so my mom just gabbed a pair, which later on her sister had said was a pair he didn't wear anymore because they hurt his feet. There was absolutly no way the medium would have known any of this - she was just assuming my grandfather brought that up because of something that happened to him BEFORE he died.

    She had also mentioned a dark cloud over my grandparents house and that terrible things would happen if the family stayed there. It was something a psycic had told my grandmother decades earlier. Of course nobody really paid any attention and my moms sisters and brother continued living there for 7 years after my grandfathers death. Cancer, Sickness and just awful things kept happening. Now that everyone has moved out, and the house is sold, things are FINALLY starting to turn around for the most part.

  3. I've been told that I have a lot of spirits around me too... occupational hazard I guess :) and I agree with you whole heartedly that there are spirits watching us as we prepare their bodies... and I've never felt like they were critiquing me or making sure I was being respectful but more that they were very curious as to what was happening (and I can see myself totally wanting to know how the afterlife all works)... I haven't visited a true Medium myself - just your average psychic... but would like to. Thanks for sharing your experience :)